But she keeps going back to him for friendship,what the eff am I for her now? I like my lectures because I feel like I have room to breathe since there is no internet connection in the lecture theaters. If you are tired or stressed I cant do sex. The reason I feel it's dragging me down is that my girlfriend's mother has always been extremely disrespectful to me. I thought she was the woman of my life, that I would do anything for her and I would but she simply doesnt want. Offer to help her move large pieces of furniture and boxes to her new space. And it can be anything, anything for the wide spectre of psychological problems or disorders. I am essentially a caretaker now. She will text or call me out of blue and tell how much she appreciates my patience with her. But i will never get married again since it really has become very risky for many of us men that have been married the first time. i still want to date her, but not if she is unhappy and always stressed because of us. The fact that shes still hanging around him enforces that theyve cheated. this relationship is stressing both of us out and thats why she does not want to be in it. Because of my own childhood, and my moms depression as a kid, I reflexively push her away when she gets very depressed, and have trouble acknowledging what shes going through. His moods got worse, we have to do whatever he wants to do, I am too scared to loose him but Ive already lost myself, I dont recognise myself anymore I was once this girl who didnt need anyone, kept everything to herself, let medication deal with my emotions now I sit and cry myself to sleep and feel so hopeless. But I feel so guilty and ashamed and like a failure for wanting this and I dont know what to do. Our arguments are born out of nothing, she wants me to do as she wishes and doesnt believe in personal space, family commitments, having ambitions and achievoing dreams. Im having similar issues as many of you aforementioned. I met my girlfriend 3 years ago through a very lovely and romantic way, and since that day we are together. Theres a lot of pain in watching someone else you love give up on their own life, be unhappy about decisions they made and wonder why the relationship is falling apart when theyve manipulated your emotions by hurting u, breaking up with you so many times and not having anything positive to say on any problem you or they have,together or singularly. And that is the hard and painful task to face the truth, because depression is, for me at least running away form truth, avoiding to face it. You can dial 911 in the US for immediate assistance, or visit your local emergency room. Be willing to provide physical assistance. See what I mean? This is a painful, complicated issue, and you deserve to have support as you work on figuring out what is best for you. Im so hurt lately, and she doesnt give it a mind, and she doesnt barely talk to me on the late days. The problem is somewhere else and only specialist can find it. Shell probably choose you at first but then once she goes back to try and be friends with the ex, end that shit. Tristen, Armand, sounds like your girlfriends have real life boyfriends too. The text is most likely a part of an image, then. Can still manage to go to pool every Tuesday night til 2am. I would definitely have this talk with her though because you should not have to put your own life on hold for her to figure out hers. Right now, we value the future of our child more than anything else. It seemed that she had turned into a distant person and the saddest part is that I think she probably wouldnt mind if I couldnt reach her anymore and Im dying inside because of this feeling, slowly Im getting depressing too and I really want out but I am trapped. If you would like to talk to a therapist or counselor, you can use our site to locate one in your area. Most of you experienced it yourselves unless you are blessed with incredible good looks or a family wealth. Peace, Man, you guys are explaining my life. I am torn as I have been chasing a cure, a resolution for her and so far no success how much longer can I go on? And dwelling in the state of permanent not-understanding-what-is-going-on is no option. She shut me off completely and gave me halfhearted reply whenever I talk to her. Youve asked some really important questions about yourself: Am I codependent? Whats my issue? What steps can or should I take? These questions are as important as they are complicated. My girlfriend and me have been together 8 months, we havent had regular sex in a month. I know who I am; I am lonely, very needy and manipulative sometimes, but am also very human and humble to talk, to admit faults, to strengthen things. Than it all started to fade, she had weekly outbursts after we met, we had a lovely weekend, then, the other day, she was always very depressed or even aggressive, treating herself very badly, being jealous on my friends, depreciating herself. Life is can be cruel, tough and deceiving. However, i was in a grade above her and graduated and proceeded to get a job so i could support our lives, this made texting hard as i had very early starts and it was very physically and mentally tiring work, however i still texted her as much as possible. That's because healthy relationships are pretty easily recognized, while bad ones are never, ever the same. If she is not, I would suggest you encourage her to begin therapy, in addition to the medication treatment. Or maybe it's because your partner is jealous, or mean, or absent. She talks like Im the only good thing in her life and I believe she truly feels that way. I forgave her and forgot all of that. He occasionally took me out shopping saying it was my treat for putting up with him but when we got to where we were going he wouldnt treat me, one time he left me in the metro centre (Newcastle uk) alone with no money, when we got home he always wanted sex, I never wanted to but allowed him to make him happy. She always wants sex and if she doesnt get it on unreasonable terms (ie i have been travelling for 3 hours, working for 8 and also hit the gym and house work and just want to sleep on the odd day) she will fight to 3am. From past one to two years I came to know.Now it becomes severe.she suffers from anxiety , bipolar disorder. Hi Greg, He left 6 months ago when I asked him to leave for my sake not his after I was signed off work with depression there was no support for me and because of his lack of attitude with dealing day to day. I feel trapped in a cycle: she gets low, I sit down with her and try to help her see the flaws and problems with her anxieties and why they are just thoughts, but by the end I feel emotionally exhausted and all she wants to do is cuddle and make up as if it was an argument. We had went there to plan for an engagement, but all she had for us was a rejection, simply because I don't own a house. I think it is a complicated thing close relationships on one hand you are sharing everything on the other sometimes you cant tell some truths, because you feel like you gonna hurt someone. v. 1. Things are never as simple as you think. You sound like a great boyfriend supporting her an everything.But where us your relationship right now?I mean,have you become just a caretaker for her,a shoulder to cry on?Or have you guys maintained your relationship to a good enough level so far?This is very important because what happens once she gets over her depression depends a lot on this.If she only sees you like a caretaker,there isnt much of a role for you to play when she does conquer her depression!Please reflect on this and sort things out.I know how it feels to stand by someone and then be abandoned by that same person.I would hate for that to happen to anybody else,especially to someone who has been as supportive as youve been! I am a twenty year old student. It's up to you to decide how to handle that. To see a list of mental health professionals practicing in your area, simply enter your ZIP code here: Sounds to me like a bunch of spoiled princesses. we took a break for a day, then got back together. The burden on caretakers is significant, and there is great therapeutic value in realizing you are not alone. Shes gone to therapy, but currently not going. If you need help finding a therapist, you are welcome to call us. I agree that perhaps she needs more than just medications and there are many wonderful approaches to therapy that could be beneficial to her but I guess that a big part of this will be convincing her that there could be something else out there for her. I would love to go to therapy, but in Sydney that shit costs anywhere from $200 to $250 for a 45 to 55-minute session, and that for a 25-year-old is a bit too much after rent and living expenses. First, try and make an attempt to be supportive. It would be way worse, and if you leave, then the relationship wouldnt be as big of a crutch and she and you can move on and grow. I love her so much and wish I could take her pain away, but I feel ive lost myself and no longer feel happy. You may also try this, what my boyfriend did: he said he is leaving me cause it is too hard for him, he left me for two painful days, then he told me that he will be back, but in some time. a) Conversation I tried to break up with her but,she couldnt let me ago, how cant she,shes been saying were drifting apart were nothing you dont care about me just stop it.and now shes depressed,or think she is, and Im the one getting all the thoughts all the sadness. AND finally, when everything feels fine, she doesnt acknowledge anything that happened. It almost feels as though she is in a better mood when I am down! She has to take control of her own mind if she ever wants to get better. If you can be open about how you're feeling, it can still be possible to work on it together. She practically has no job and no home and fails to do anything about this. Like i texted her after an hour or two and she read some of them. This really got to me, he is my first love! I feel for all of you guys! We stopped having sex last year because of her trauma. As Dr. Sylvie Stacy said on Livestrong.com, "The most common headache catalyzed by anger is the tension headache. Im not sure I want to be married to someone thats been depressed all her life, its only gonna get worse. First, if you are ever in crisis or are in danger of hurting yourself or someone else, it is very important you seek help immediately. There are so ways people find happiness and you guys both just need to find yours and you need to know that one day.. You will. I dont want to get to the point of carer for her or to resent her because of her condition. Read the book co-dependent no more. I tried the whole counselling route n psychiatrist with her. All I got is she is just a drama queen, there wasnt any problems to become sad. But she just barely ever wants to talk, but thinks I should be always trying to talk to her even when she wont want too. You deserve to be happy as well. My gf & I have been dating for only five months. its comforting to know that other couples go through the same things. As time went on our texts started to get more and more one sided as i would ask about her day and i would help her with any problems she had, but she would always start complaining about her problems and never actually talking about mine. Now I am questioning myself whether to leave her or hold her.whether she ll feel better later on if I suppose leave her. I dont know how to split myself between my family my partner, myself, my job, and I feel guilty for prioritizing the one over the other (along with it being placed on me by both parties). Drag Me Down Lyrics [Verse 1: Harry] I've got fire for a heart, I'm not scared of the dark You've never seen it look so easy I got a river for a soul, and, baby, you're a boat Baby, you're my. 2. I have thought about leaving, but I'm afraid it would devastate her, and I truthfully don't know that she would survive it. I have been with my girlfriend long distance for over a year now. I have told lies to her before because I think of telling the truth and thoughts of the reaction fill me with absolute dread. my health is declining. About me and my girlfriend! I feel trapped. Good looking, good healthy cooking. For the potential cheating part, dont worry about it. We used to talk all day, have very long calls every night, laugh a lot, play together. Tomorrow my lady and I would be ten months not quite a year, but things have switched off lately. Good luck! I dont know if it is a good thing to avoid that, I am almost sure it isnt. she undergoing medications and therapy but nothing could help her. Youre so much less experienced and you know so much less than you think, Im not saying that as a criticism at all, Im sure youve been through more than I can imagine, but people have gone through this before and somehow got passed it to live their life for decades and decades. Should I leave her be and wait for her to consult me? Someone might say, she cooks, cleans, is stunning and wants sex, what more do you want.. Yes, we all need help and support and Im in it til death do we part. She was not like this when we first met. First two years went well. I m still jobless for more than 2yrs thinking about her problems all the time.i can marry her after getting a good job.i feel like my life is hell and but I am not selfish too. So its what you make of it. Then to know she will react & get angry is so wrong. Firstly, good work for simply dealing with it as long as you have you are obviously so much stronger than you think. I lost my faith in myself, in my abilities, in my attractiveness, I also lost my job because I was physically sick because of stress. So it can really, truly suck when you realize your relationship is dragging you down. Been experiencing something very similar in my relationship, I have been helping my girlfriend with her anxiety and depression for years as well and its been so long that often I feel down and hopeless too. I m still jobless for more than 2yrs thinking about her problems all the time.i can marry her after getting a good job.i feel like my life is hell and but I am not selfish too. Imagine if you stay another couple years, get married, have children, then that person does the unspeakable after that? However when i asked her how shed feel if i was to hang out with other girls she said that i wasnt allowed to and that all i would do is want to have sex with them or at least have those intentions. Her family is going to assist her getting professional help, and I have told her that if she needs me in the future I will be there to support her in any way she requires. I dont know how much you have tried already, but why not try it? All I could do is be the best boyfriend a girl could have. Your girlfriend loves you, but I think she is just a bit restless without you being there. There are good periods every so often but only if I talk to her most waking hours and only if I talk in a loving tone. I want so much to help her, but I feel like I have nothing else to give. If you haven't been feeling like yourself lately, your romance may be to blame. Like everything was depending on something else, like it was fragile structure. I was acting like it all was my boyfriends fault, and I sometimes felt like this. Kind regards, The GoodTherapy Team, Im going through a similar thing, Ive been with my girlfriend for 4 years, shes been through childhood trauma, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, shes friendly when normal, considerate of others, respects me, whenever theres an emotional issue , though not my fault, she became destructive, recklessly destroyed everything she could see, started to be indifferent to me, aloof, aggressive, self-harm, said a lot of negative things, i love her i tried meditating and Self hypnosis to deceive my emotions, I dont know what to do, I dont know how long I can hold on, Im afraid Im really broken, it will hurt everyone. But, she didnt make an effort to talk about it so it seemed to have slipped by the way side. She had many great traits and was amazing in some areas of the relationship which made it hard to think about ending the relationship when I thought I was getting so much out of it. It's what we all strive for, and hope for, and dream about when pairing up with a partner. I even offered to pay for the consultation costs. At first I was stressed about it, but later I realised that my worrying wouldnt change the situation at all. She looks for a bit of comfort, wants some tea/cuddles and sex. Nowadays, going to Youtube to watch movies and listen to music and entertainment is a daily necessity. But I just dont know anymore. Ive been with my girlfriend for ten years, starting in college. Ask yourself if you truly want to continue in the relationship. There is so many thoughts and circumstances for a girl. Now I am questioning myself whether to leave her or hold her.whether she ll feel better later on if I suppose leave her. About me and my girlfriend! I am not an expert in the world of women but if there is anything I have learned it is that women feel a whole range of emotions and only show/tell a few (or none). Help me drag the camping gear down the hill. Her aggression and fights are only there to tell you that she needs help, and help in this case is outside you two therapy, friends, new experiences. Im there for her and she knows it. If the answer is yes, talk with your partner ASAP. Every time I look at her pics, I am immediately in love again by seeing her smile but in person all I am thinking of is an exit strategy despite all the caring in the world. Medically reviewed by Jennifer Litner, PhD, LMFT, CST By Ash Fisher on June 10, 2021. 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. Lately, Ive been becoming stronger, Ive finished my graduation, am starting to work by myself. And probably you wonder why I use past tense when I write. (All is Hell) It's an affect that's truly worth noting. She is also currently in therapy. I wanted to cope with it on my own, I thought that I would be finally feeling proud of myself if I could fix myself. So even if you don't initially make the connection, your relationship could be why you're always up at night. My Girlfriend's Depression Is Bringing Me Down. she knows im here for her. I'm seeing shapes behind the curtain. Good Luck Everyone. I took on too much. I consider myself in recovery. I dealt the final blow when I advised psychological follow-up over and over again. I love her, but I cant go on like this, sometimes I want to escape, but I cant. My ex boyfriend left me because I was depressed all the time. It seems that most of you are wonderful people who would do everything to safe their loved ones, even if you are not sure that you still in love. Just because shes depressed, Ive got depressed. It bothers me a lot and Ive done all I could to understand. Its your natural born right to be happy! She tried attempting suicide few times.Even I am loving her lot but could not make her understand.she always wants me to be around my arms! She tried attempting suicide few times.Even I am loving her lot but could not make her understand.she always wants to be around my arms! I have a battle on my hands, life has tried to tear me down before and I wont let it just yet..You choose to be happy, Woah that is one crazy situation both of you are dealing with. Listen, really try to listen like she was your best friend not girlfriend. Leave. I dont mind being a caretaker.. but it has to be for someone who also cares about me. ago Welcome to r/dating_advice! There was a point in my life when it was obvious I needed to address my depression which exposed itself as anger and Ive been waiting 5 years for her to have the same epiphany. She changed everything, she made me comfortable, like Ive found someone so much like me; melancholic, with same tastes and so. If I talk in a neutral tone or raise my voice even slightly she says I am scary and becomes inconsolable. That takes incredible patience and compassion, but it can also take a toll on you. I can know no one would have got solution. Im on anti depressants myself but evidently those are for the weak that cant handle reality from her pointof view. Psychiatrists are the experts in the medical treatment of depression, and they will be able to provide better care than a general practitioner. Recently, she insulted both my mother and I in her home. I am trying to help her but I could not help anymore than this.i could not concentrate on caring myself, could not eat or sleep well. And at the current time, I feel stretched thin with everything going around me since everyone needs me there for them, along with being there for myself. 3. I strongly encourage you to begin your own therapy. Software Full Name: Adobe Premiere Pro 2023. That is why she will fail. I really hope that it is it. im so torn and she suggested friends with benefits because we still show each other we care and shit by being friends at school and stuff, then casual hook ups and hanging out, basically dating. I agreed but this has left me with nothing to do, leaving my friends was a massive mistake! Method 1 Addressing It Right Now 1 Avoid reacting immediately. i truely love her, she doesnt know if she loves me because she is so caught up with her shit. I ask if theres someone else, she says no. She might miss you. What's my issue, and what steps can or should I take that would help both her and me? I have a problem and cant find anyone to tell Found that website and the posts here are very similar to mine. Can we all agree that that sounds pretty amazing, and most definitely "good? She relies on me sitting down and talking sense to her, but I too feel like a caretaker, an older sibling or even a parent sometimes. Everyday is a battle. Life is too short to waste time and energy on depressed people. Life was perfect. We kept going on, and little by little she started becoming more and more away from me. I have good days and bad days. You will only drag yourself down in the end. To pull something or someone from a higher to a lower position: She dragged down the boxes from the attic. This is important: I have to tell you you will not find the cure, you can be there and support but please stop believing that it will make the problem go away. My partner's negativity gets me down A happy, optimistic man is brought down by the relentless negativity of his partner. It has been a year so far and initially it was good and then I thought this was normal, but these days I am seeing more and more clearly that she needs help and the worse thing is she doesnt actively look for help. Its very common, but you must break the cycle. Do a "deep search" instead. If so, you might get what's known as a tension headache from all the heated emotions. As long as your eyes are open. How do I approach the situation without hurting her feelings/making her feel bad? Youve managed to take care of your girlfriend and remain connected enough to yourself to come up with these questions. And here's hoping you both can turn things around, and have a little more of that "good.". This kept kappening and only got worse I had to see him every day and if I didnt he would kick off and make me feel worse than dirt. I really don't know the best way if breaking it to her and I don't wanna do anything that I'll regret 3 28 28 comments Add a Comment AutoModerator 8 mo. This then gives my anxiety about getting erectile dysfunction. Please keep in mind that GoodTherapy.org is an exclusive directory. Am I taking the wrong approach? Recently I have many more commitments and as a result I no longer have the time to reassure her all the time, and her depression has gotten much worse. Like, a supermodel could walk by and your partner wouldn't bat at an eye. Some times its okay but those are only the times when things are easy. Now days she is anxious most of the time and can easily get angry and we get into arguments ALOT. Shes my best friend, but I worry that shes not able to plan a life with me or be an equal partner in the relationship. I am still the same guy I will never change, maybe certain little things like texting habits to accommodate her but I treat her with all the dignity I have. She had issues before with sex and that was part of why she drank. But, my girlfriends depression and self loathing is disgusting. We were engaged. Taking her depression into her own hands, can that make a person sick? The way this went down was that I got very worried and stayed up all night trying to stop her, and since then it has happened multiple times. Your love will develop as you both learn (with help) how to manage your feelings and youll both be closer having supported one another through this difficult process, July 16th, 2016 at 5:42 AM If you're being dragged down by your partner, it could be due to cheating, or emotional abuse, or a lack of support. Me being there, and supporting this whole time didnt count for anything. The specific mention of medication but not therapy makes me wonder whether your girlfriend is in therapy. ", When it comes to unhealthy relationships, however, the badness can take so many confusing forms. I also feel now a little bit insecure, because in need he left me and I have impression that it might happen again if anything else bad happens. Sometimes I lash out because I get so frustrated, and then I feel guilty because I got frustrated. I asked a lot of questions to learn what the problem is, all she says that everything collapses to her. I wasnt spending as much time with her before and now that I do, I see how bad it could get. Talk, really talk openly without any criticism. deep thoughts in my head And they just keep dragging me down there down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so. It is your life too. Karen S., a business executive in her late 20s, had been with her boyfriend eight months when she fell into a funk. It was me rationalising my emotions. Not cool. Youve shown your love for her and she knows that. The couple times I have plucked up the courage to leave she has done drastic forms of self harm. Slowly Im staying more time at home. Step down, itll make both of you happier long term. my girlfriend has depression and is anorexic. 3. And thats when shit will get unbearable for the two of you. Im not sure whats going on but I let her know constructively that I considered leaving her I know its harsh but it was a reality check. I'm not sure how to begin so I guess I'll start from the beginning. She also will fail in it, many times, probably hurting you, but she will go on. I am crying here because I feel you guys are talking about problem that I am facing. I dont know if that is the case with you too. Im more bummed cause were not having as much sex as Id like. As men we dont have an option. Before this everything was amazing, great relationship, we admitted to each other that we were in love and had fallen head over heals, amazing sex, I really felt like I had found my best friend. I have high blood pressure because of her. Youll feel like your carrying a heavy anchor your whole life and will always be exhausted emotionally. So you see, these emotions are complicated, you have trace them few steps back to understand what is really going on. You create your own reality. Gently but strongly. Obviously it isnt making her any happier as things are.. She can realize what she lost later and change then, or they can do something dramatic which will be out of your hand anyways. It seems like she doesnt want me around, but also states she has never been this open to anyone before. She likes me to stay home with here all the time. When I feel she is back to her slump again I back off and do my own thing for awhile. Apparently she doesnt really talk to anyone anymore she wants to be left alone. My girlfriend has jealousy along with paranoia, anxiety, post traumatic stress disorder and some depression. It sounds like you have been a tremendous source of love, strength, and support for your girlfriend in her battle with depression. I know what it feels like to be distant, but I have extra credit for you because you are near her but yet you still get the cold shoulder. I missed her, but she pushed me away and i got fed up from this. Is your heart constantly pounding from the stress, arguments, or that anxiety I just mentioned? Uffo , I feel like I dont want anything in my life. Even, if she makes me depressed Ill take it a step further and still go out and play basketball or swim or go out with friends. I dont see it getting any better. What you have to realise is that she didnt chose to become depressed so to have a partner in this situation is devastating, you cant be angry and leave her because shes done nothing wrong, she still loves you as much as you love her and I promise she feels a million times worse when she has an outburst than you do. It is characterized by a dull pain accompanied by muscular tension in the neck area." Subscribe me to the GoodTherapy.org public newsletter. i dont know what to do. Or call me out of blue and tell how much she appreciates my patience with her boyfriend eight months she. An eye than a general practitioner control of her condition with depression a tension headache my. 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